The world can be overwhelming. As darkness increases with the coming of winter, our hearts sometimes feel the same increasing darkness. In a world where everyone encounters struggles—whether they’re visible or hidden—the role of a friend, family member, or community supporter becomes crucial in finding healing and hope. Sometimes, the most comforting thing we can do for someone in pain is simply to be there, offering an understanding ear and a compassionate heart. Allow me to share some insights from Persevering Power: Four Keys for Successfully Overcoming Life’s Challenges.
1. Look Up: Offering a New Perspective
When someone is in pain, it’s natural for them to feel overwhelmed, with their focus narrowed to the immediate challenges. Encouraging them to “look up” can help open their perspective, lifting their gaze to see that they’re not alone. In the book, I describe how God’s presence offers comfort and strength, providing assurance that our challenges are seen and understood. Remind your friend or loved one that looking up invites a sense of peace and purpose, helping them reconnect with a sense of hope beyond their current situation.
We all need to be reminded that external circumstances do not define who we are or dictate how we respond. As a child of God, you are promised joy in trials (James 1:2). Circumstances in our country or world may make that feel impossible but greater is He that is in you, than he that is in the world (1 John 4:4).
2. Look Back: Reminding Them of Past Strength
Helping someone look back in a way that fosters gratitude can be powerful. Persevering Power suggests that by reflecting on moments of past resilience, people can remember how they’ve overcome difficulties before. Sharing personal stories of times they have been strong can remind them that they have the inner strength to face the present challenge, empowering them to move forward with a renewed sense of hope.
Our past can color present circumstances making them even darker. When feeling trapped in that darkness, we need a light at the end of the tunnel. Each week clients find that light of hope in a Gospel Justice Center through Administer Justice. One client this last week wrote,
“I had the feeling that there may be a light at the end of the tunnel. I have been going in circles and now have a straight path that seems much clearer. I pray that others having legal problems find this place.”
Find a place of healing and hope. If you are facing legal challenges, please allow Administer Justice to be that place.
3. Look In: Encouraging Reflection and Self-Care
One of the most difficult things for those who are hurting is to maintain self-compassion. Supporting someone in pain can involve gently helping them examine their inner world. Encouraging reflection—without judgment—helps them confront any negative self-talk or feelings of unworthiness. Remind them to give themselves grace. Sometimes, it’s okay not to be okay; being kind to oneself can foster healing from within.
4. Look Around: Building Connection and Community
Pain often leads people to withdraw, but one of the best antidotes to suffering is connection. Encourage those who are struggling to look around and see the community that surrounds them. Whether it’s friends, family, faith communities, or support groups, fostering relationships reminds us that we don’t have to face hardships alone. Together, we share the burden, and through shared experiences, we find renewed strength.
Closing Thoughts
Persevering Power, provides a beautiful reminder that God’s love and community support bring healing. By offering our presence, our listening ear, and our encouragement, we help those around us discover their path to healing and hope. Supporting someone in pain isn’t about fixing their problems—it’s about walking beside them and showing them they are not alone. As the book shares, the journey toward peace and joy is possible, and it’s made easier when we take it together.
